Recently I had a conversation about lying with my boyfriend, and we have two very different perspectives. He feels like it is never okay to lie to anyone...ever...period. Whether it be a big lie or a small lie. In his opinion, if someone will lie about something super small, they will lie about something huge. He applies this to all aspects of life. He thinks if you start out doing little misdemeanor crimes that you will eventually end up murdering someone. Or if you start out smoking a little weed, that that will be the gateway drug to you eventually doing crack one day.
I, on the other hand, disagree. I feel like in certain circumstances, it is okay to lie. For example, if a woman has a child that is five years old, and she dies an extremely bloody/terrible death, I don't think one should tell the child every little detail of their mothers murder. In my opinion, they should "lie"/ fluff the truth considering the circumstances. My boyfriend thinks that the child should know everything and their is no point to lie.
He feels like if you lie to someone, you are disrespecting them because basically you feel like they couldn't "handle" the truth.
I agree to a certain extent. I feel like you shouldn't lie, but sometimes people actually can't handle the truth, and that's when it's okay to lie.
He disagrees with me because he feels like, who am I to say if someone can or can't "handle" the truth. That's not my place.
We never really did come to a conclusion on this particular subject, which is why I brought it to this blog. How do you all feel about lying? Do you think it is acceptable, or no? thoughts?
I have zero patience with lying, especially if I ask a direct question. Once I catch someone lying to me, I start to question everything else they say to me and I hate to be like that. I kind of agree with your boyfriend...it shows disrespect, like the person doesn't rate high enough for an honest response. I generally don't ask questions to fish for compliments. If I ask if these pants make my butt look fat, I really want to know. Don't let me leave the house looking like a freak. LOL But you also have a point about "handling" the truth. There is, however, a way to deliver the truth without beating someone up with it. I think sometimes people use the truth to abuse people and that isn't cool either. Yes, it's the truth, but it doesn't always need to be expressed or when it does need to be expressed, you can do it without being a jerk about it.
ReplyDeleteI think lying is definitely a bad think but I feel like we all do it. Even if its just a little white lie. Those small lies can turn into big ones. I try to be as honest as possible but sometimes its better to lie than get yourself involved in things you don't want to be involved in. I think there is a very very small window for lying that is okay.
ReplyDeleteI hate lying as well , but simple things such as how old your child is to get them into places cheaper I really don't care for. But things such as you know will hurt the other persons feelings really is unacceptable I rather you told the truth then to lie to me. Some people say hat they lie because they don't want to hurt the other persons feelings but it's more than that because once the persons finds out the lie they are going to be hurt even more.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you, Lying can be done sometimes but it really depends on what it is. Such as if you're lying about where you're. I don't feel you should lie but its some situations that you also should lie.
ReplyDeleteSuch as if our english professor gave us a essay and I completed it the night of. Say she came back to me and said Tyler, you did not do such a good job, did you complete it the night of? I would lie and say no, I just did not really understand the topic well etc. I just feel like sometimes protecting your butt is acceptable.
I personally think lying is okay in serious situations like that. Relationship wise, I think that you both got in a relationship to handle anything that comes your way so you should always tell the truth in that situation... Really this is a complicated topic to give my opinion on, it just depends on the seriousness of the situation if a lie is acceptable or not for me.
ReplyDeleteI feel as if in serious matters lying is acceptable, it is more like protecting. In every instance we are not going to tell the truth or not at that moment. For example if your sickly grandmother knitted you a sweater, I doubt you're going to tell her it is ugly and you don't want it. Life is all about choices, and a lot of times people are way too sensitive to hear the truth.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. I also think that in certain situations lying is acceptable. We sometimes lie to people to try not to hurt their feelings... the truth sometimes hurts... but then again, I'd rather someone tell me the truth if I ask them a question rather than lie about it.
ReplyDeleteI believe lying is acceptable in certain situations, but overall the truth is much better no matter what.
ReplyDeleteThe truth is always better than lying, but there are small situations where it can be acceptable. If your throwing a surprise party and you have to lie to that person to keep it a surprise, its okay. Lying becomes a problem, when you are trying to cover up the ugly truth. When people feel guilty about something, they feel like a lie will make everything good or sound good. I personally believe telling the truth is better than pretending and lying. I would want to know the truth and not feel hurt or stupid from being told a lie.
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